The Purpose and Value of (Labor) Support

The Purpose and Value of (Labor) Support

Often times the littlest things can have the biggest impact. Emotional, physical and educational labor support is something that is too frequently overlooked and sometimes even seen as unnecessary. However, doulas, and most childbirth educators, midwives, nurses, and obstetricians know that effective labor support can make the difference between an ordinary birth experience and one that is extraordinary and often times empowering and life-changing for the mother and father. In my work as a birth doula I have had the opportunity to see the tremendous benefit that this type of support provides women and families.

The only thing I have to compare birth to is my small (relatively speaking) accomplishment on December 20, 2008. Although it is not exactly comparable, I feel that this experience could not have been completed without the amazing support that I received and for that reason, I feel it was similar to the journey of childbirth.

When I decided to run the Honolulu Marathon I was excited, but definitely nervous. I knew I could do it but was scared nonetheless of the long 26.2 mile journey ahead of me. Before I began my training, I knew I needed to find a reliable, supportive, and determined team to train with. I found a friend, Abby, who had run a marathon before and asked her if she wanted to be my training partner. She agreed and so the preparing began. Another friend, Jen, joined in the beginning stages of our training program even though she wasn’t planning on running in the big race. A few weeks into it, we managed to convince Jen to sign up and officially join our training team. Training was a journey in and of itself. We spent countless hours together, running around the city of Honolulu, hoping it would pay off. Some days I was completely unmotivated to run but my two partners kept me positive and enthusiastic. A week before the big day, we set out of our longest and second to last run. It was tough but exhilarating and got me excited for the marathon.

The morning of the marathon, I woke up at 3 am. Feelings of excitement came over me, as I realized it was the day I had been waiting and training for. I also felt scared and uncertain about what the next 7 or 10 hours might bring. When my boyfriend and I got into the car to head to the marathon start line, I started to get really nervous and had butterflies flying about my stomach. When we arrived at Jen’s house, she and Abby got into the car. I immediately felt a sense of comfort and relief, knowing that these two strong ladies would be there to accompany me on my 26.2 mile run. I was entering an unfamiliar world, one that I was beginning to wish I had never signed up for, until I saw their smiling faces.

When we arrived at the starting line I felt ready, even though I was still a little anxious. Abby looked at Jen and I and said “don’t worry, you can do it”. That was all I needed to hear. When the gun went off, we took off. Within minutes, Abby was gone, as she was a much stronger racer than both Jen and I. We stayed together for almost 14 miles, encouraging one another and keeping the energy between us strong and positive. After I lost Jen, I had a hard time. I hit “the wall” and I was all alone. My legs were burning and I was just plain tired of running. Just when I was on the brink of giving up, I found comfort in the faces and words of the locals who sat outside their homes on this rainy Honolulu morning just to cheer us on. The support made all the difference. I finished after 5 hours with a smile on my face even though my body was in pain. When I found Jen after the race, we hugged and congratulated each other on our big accomplishment.

When I began my training as a birth doula, I realized that the value of labor support is very necessary and actually quite invaluable, similar to the support I received when I was training and racing. When a pregnant or laboring woman has the unconditional support of another individual who has the passion and energy for the remarkable journey and process of pregnancy and childbirth, she feels safer and has more confidence in herself. When she has this confidence, she can find the inner strength to complete her amazing task of giving birth, whichever way is most satisfying for her. As long as we are there, to provide her with she needs and wants, whether it is a cool cloth, a back or foot rub, or just some kind words of encouragement, she will feel that she has been cared for. Too often these little but significant details are overlooked and not seen as an important part of caring for women in labor. We, as doulas, know better. We know the value of continuous, unconditional (labor) support.